Lent has a way of arriving right when many of us are already tired. Not always the dramatic kind of tired but the kind that makes you cancel everything and hide under your duvet. I mean the quieter exhaustion that sits in the background of ordinary life; a full calendar and an even fuller mind, the mental load, the low-level anxiety, the constant feeling that you’re a few steps behind everyone else. And then Lent appears on the calendar. And you can almost hear the inner sigh.
If you grew up with Lent, you might remember it feeling serious. As a child, I remember Ash Wednesday being marked with real weight, a visible reminder that this season was meant to slow you down and wake you up. It felt sacred, even when you couldn’t fully explain why.
Now Lent can almost feel like something else entirely. For instance, in the UK, I’ve often heard people casually say, “I’m giving up Instagram for Lent,” or “I’m cutting sugar,” or “I’m doing a cleanse.” Sometimes those choices are genuinely helpful. Sometimes they’re a healthy boundary. But sometimes it also leaves Christians quietly wondering: Is that what Lent has become? Just another self-improvement project with a spiritual label?
If you’re already weary, Lent can start to sound like spiritual pressure: try harder, do more, prove you’re serious.
But what if Lent isn’t meant to drain you?
What if Lent is God’s gentle invitation to come home — not to perform, but to breathe again? Not a push but a pause?
Lent was never meant to break you.
At its best, Lent is a season of preparation. A slower walk toward Easter that makes space for prayer, reflection, repentance, and renewal. It’s a time to notice what has been shaping us and to choose, again, what we want to be shaped by.
That matters, because many of us arrive at Lent already feeling like we’re failing.
Failing at consistency. Failing at focus. Failing at being “strong.”
So we pile Lent on top of everything else … and our souls end up more burdened than blessed.
But Jesus doesn’t begin with a demand. He begins with an invitation: “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.” (Matthew 11:28)
That’s the heartbeat of a gentler Lent. Not a religious workout. A holy exhale.
If you’re weary, here are three simple ways to practise Lent without turning it into pressure.
1) Choose one small “return,” not a full spiritual overhaul
When we feel spiritually distant, the instinct is to fix everything at once. We set ambitious plans: longer prayers, earlier mornings, stricter habits, perfect discipline. It’s well-intentioned … but it often backfires.
Because real life still happens.
Work is still busy. Children still need you. Your responsibilities still exist. Your energy still fluctuates. And then shame creeps in: I can’t even do Lent properly.
A weary Lent begins smaller. Small doesn’t mean shallow.
Five minutes of quiet before you touch your phone.One Psalm read slowly, not rushed like a task.One honest prayer whispered on the commute.One walk where you talk to God like a real person, not a religious script.
The goal isn’t to impress God. It’s to return to Him.
God is not measuring your effort with a stopwatch. He honours the smallest “yes.” Sometimes the most spiritual thing you can do is come back gently without theatrics.
2) Fast from pressure, not just pleasure
Fasting can be powerful but it isn’t one-size-fits-all. For some people, food fasting isn’t wise or possible. For others, strict fasting can become tangled with guilt, control, or exhaustion.
So here’s a question that can be even more transformative:
What is crowding God out right now?
Sometimes it’s not chocolate. It’s pressure.
Pressure to be impressive. Pressure to be productive. Pressure to hold everything together. Pressure to “bounce back” quickly and look fine while you’re not fine.
In a culture that rewards busyness, even spirituality can become performative. We can end up chasing the appearance of devotion rather than the presence of God.
So yes, if giving something up helps you create space, do it. But consider this, too:
What if this Lent, you fasted from harsh self-talk?What if you gave up the habit of punishing yourself for being human?
Some of us don’t need a stricter Lent, just one that doesn’t treat weakness as failure because Jesus never did.
3) Practise spoken Scripture as a daily anchor
There’s a simple discipline many believers quietly return to in demanding seasons: speaking Scripture out loud.
Not as a magic formula. Not as denial. But as a way of gently renewing the mind, especially when your thoughts won’t switch off.
Paul writes: “Be transformed by the renewing of your mind” (Romans 12:2).
That renewal is often gentle and repetitive. Like coming back to truth again and again, not because you’re “faking it,” but because you’re training your heart.
Try this during Lent: choose one verse for the week and speak it softly morning and night. Not perfectly. Just consistently. Like you’re putting your soul back in the right direction.
A few simple anchors:
“God is our refuge and strength, an ever-present help in trouble” (Psalm 46:1).
“In quietness and trust is your strength” (Isaiah 30:15).
“The Lord is my shepherd; I lack nothing” (Psalm 23:1).
Then turn the verse into a simple declaration:
God, you are my refuge. I am not alone.
I release striving. I receive your rest.
I may feel tired, but you are steady.
This isn’t pretending. It’s practising. It’s training your inner life to come back to truth when emotions are loud.
A Gentle Lent Reset (try this today)
If you don’t know where to start, start here. Three small steps — no pressure, no performance.
Return: one honest sentence to God: “Lord, I’m here. I’m tired, but I want You.”
Release: one thing you’ve been carrying that isn’t yours to hold: “I release the pressure to be okay all the time.”
Replace: one anxious thought with one Scripture truth you can say out loud:
“God is my refuge and strength” (Psalm 46:1).
“In quietness and trust is my strength” (Isaiah 30:15).
That’s it. You’ve begun. Not with striving but with surrender. Not with guilt but with grace.
Lent isn’t a performance. It’s a homecoming.
One of the tender gifts of Lent is that it gives us permission to be honest.
Honest about what we’ve been avoiding.Honest about what has been forming us.Honest about how tired we really are.
And still, God doesn’t step back. He steps closer.
If you’re weary this year, you don’t need a Lent that proves you’re strong. You need a Lent that reminds you that God is faithful even when your faith feels small.
And if all you can offer is a quiet return … that’s enough. Because Lent was never about showing off. It was always about coming back to God.
Ayoola Bandele is a faith writer and founder of Daily Bible Declarations, a global Scripture-based hub for Biblical declarations (spoken Scripture) and faith-based mindset renewal.